Your view of the family follows your grasp of the truth.
When you rebel against God, you are like a child who hates rules, but these are the rules that grant life, to you and everyone around you.
Relationships are indicative of your view of the family, parents, and God. Once you have convinced yourself that a parent is standing in the way of your rights, good life, choices, you may decide all authority stands in the way of what you want. You may also, then, choose pleasure over prudence, seeking your own ways over the original Father, God. If you seek truth, though, the first thing that becomes obvious is the place your father had in guiding you away from this trap. Seeking your own way, pleasure, gratification first, can only lead to a life of selfishness and pain, both for you and others.
Ultimately, you might choose to take God’s place, make your own rules, and trust your own power over his. It’s compassion that motivates God to want you to avoid this destructive path. Since he made you, he’s your only source of life, not you. You are nothing, literally, and what you have has been given to you by him. At his essence, God wants to save everyone from, after once receiving his goodness, wealth, and life, then worshiping the feeling of having them, rather than the one who gave them. To displace your trust in him onto yourself, you also displace his right to give you these things anymore. This is the reason he sacrificed himself to save you.
If you can trust him again, he can give you everything that you need, because he has become your righteousness again, having “turned off” the curse (taken away the reason for it) that you brought on yourself. You might say, well why doesn’t turning back to him save me from this curse? First of all, rebellion carries an addiction that only his power can break. But most importantly, separating from God in any way brings instant death to your spirit, and slow but inevitable death to your body and mind. You would need to regenerate yourself, a power you don’t have, and you would need to be clean, washing yourself of the crime you committed against truth, God, his children, the universe, and all of reality.
Defying the truth, then, is equivalent to wishing death on everything, and everyone. You may only cause your own death, but you put everyone close to you at risk, tempting them to plunge off the cliff with you. Asking others to defy God is just like telling them they have no value, and you wish them dead. Worse, you consider them to be a living sacrifice to your new rules, sacrificing everyone for your own pleasure, at the bargain price of their soul.
This is the legacy of rebellion. It not only chains you to the devices of your own demise, it inflicts the pain and destruction of it on all others around you. There is no better way to cause the destruction of those close to you than to despise the design of the family.
God chose the family as his design because that is what we are to him. Will you see this destruction directly, reciprocally, any time you delve into rebellion? No, not really. The fruition of prudent planning takes time to reveal itself, and so does the fruit of selfishness. That is why looking directly into history, and staring intently until a pattern emerges, is perhaps the only true test of fidelity. You can’t outrun truth.
This is why my subject matter always seem to return to the human capacity for denial. If you are comfortable with self-deception, you will find a way to troll the depths of disconnection with truth, without much negative feedback. It’s not a lifetime of regret that I’m really trying to save anyone from here.
Love is a person. If you read my writing, you know that my two main tenets are: 1. You are not, nor will you ever be him. and, 2. He speaks, and truth happens. So, if you are not listening for the truth, the two mistakes you’ll likely make are: 1. Trying to be him. and, 2. Ignoring, missing, or denying his truth. If, then, you do this with relationships/family, that’s when you will observe the most immediate and devastating effects of your denial. Broken relationships, love growing cold, the pursuit of pleasure or deviant expressions of love, really substitutes for the real thing, are all the result of denying truth.
This is the conclusion I’ve come to after observing history, and watching the vain, empty counterfeits for love that are being sold today. I can now say that most people that say they have a different version of the family (different from the one where a child gets the benefit of their two parents) are having to compensate or try to recreate that design that was first intended. Some can, with much effort succeed in providing stability and security, but unless the voice of history, the voice of truth, is held sacrosanct, the child’s life is lesser for it, and at risk of the consequences of a loveless existence.
What I am really trying to save people from is death. Not even their bodily death, but from spiritual death. Even typing this, the dilution of the word, spirit, has become so smeared out of focus with delusional versions of fake revelation and deception, I have to think that no one reading this shares anywhere near to same definition in their head for the word. What I mean by spiritual death is, separation from the true, living God. If you are actually alive, then you hear the truth, and you know that God loves you as his child. But, more than that, you love him with your life. You simply can’t live with yourself when you hurt someone, or break his heart in some way.
I used to think there was a way to agree on what love is supposed to be, without God. As if we might be able to see things God’s way having never heard from him, we could somehow come to a definition no one could argue with. But, look at the world we live in. Of all the words that are the least agreed upon, love is at least top 5. So, I thought, if I’m going to land this thing, better have an authoritative source. God said, if you [want to do things your way], that day, you will surely die. (Genesis 2:17) Well, we’re dead. The only way we’ve found to keep ourselves distracted from this fact is akin to beating a dead horse, trying every fake way to satisfy our emptiness that we can think of, except for the one, the easiest and most obvious way.
Listen. Stop thinking of ways to explain yourself, and instead, call out to him. If you keep doing this, knowing there’s a person who made you to love, made you out of his love for you, one who is listening back, you will hear him, eventually. But, you have to be willing to stop listening to yourself (really the last person you should be trusting for the secrets of the universe, if you think about it). If there is a supreme intelligence, by definition, he speaks. And to me, he said “you’re approved, you’re loved, and you will have life because you believe me.” There is no other life, truth, or love, except the one that died to prove it.
…if you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and you believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. (Romans 10:9)
If you believe he’s the way, you’ll be part of the real, one and only family of God. Listen. Wait. He’ll speak to you, and you’ll feel the welcome and peace only his grace and love can give. You’ll be alive.
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